
Today I am grateful for family. I know for a fact I’ve been avoiding writing about this one because it seems like such an overwhelmingly impossible and gargantuan task to adequately express the depth and breadth of gratitude I feel for my family. It would take volumes to cover all of the reasons I’m grateful for each individual in my family and the contributions they’ve each made to my life. But challenges have never stopped me from trying before, and you’ve gotta start somewhere, right?
Yesterday after the meeting in Palo Alto wrapped up I took the train into San Francisco to visit my cousin Chris and his wonderful wife Hilleary. I haven’t seen them since their wedding in SF two years ago, and it was a welcome and much needed reunion.
A bit of history.
I have a pretty small family. My younger brother (Sandy) and I have only 5 cousins – 3 on my mom’s side and 2 on my dad’s side. We are by far the youngest, thus, growing up our cousins carried us around on their shoulders and played games with us, but it wasn’t until Sandy and I had reached university that we were close enough in life experience to our cousins to develop meaningful relationships with them. It was delightful to realize that my cousins (and uncles and aunts) were all super rad people with similar interests and outlooks on life who I would have been friends with whether or not we happened to share genealogy. What an amazing gift, to share family history, stories, and memories with such cool and inspiring people!
Back to Chris and Hilleary (C&H). C&H are just flat-out, awesome. They are both outgoing and adventurous, and have unbelievable stories of travel and involvement in all kinds of activities and sports including surfing, sailing, biking (mountain, road, dirt), kiteboarding, hiking, back-country skiing, you name it! They’re also incredibly well read and worldly and I can always count on them for engaging discussion on current issues, recent TED talks, or technology, among many other things. Oh and did I mention they love food and wine? I seriously can’t believe how lucky I am to be related to these amazing humans.
As well as being fun and interesting as individuals, C&H are one of those couples that would make a perpetual bachelor/bachelorette think twice about what they might be missing out on – they are the epitome of a team, are obviously madly in love, and always seem to be smiling and having fun. In fact, C&H’s relationship has been a real source of inspiration for me and helped me find the courage to leave a relationship in which I was settling, and stick it out and believe the right one would come along. Of course, it did. My relationship with Costa is one of the greatest gifts in my life (another challenging Gratitober post for another day!), so I have a lot to thank them for.
I had a fantastic visit this weekend with C&H full of great laughs, great scenery, and great food, and while short, it allowed us to reconnect, catch up on each other’s lives, and propose plans to get together in the future. (Costa and I are dying to drive down the coast from Vancouver to SF and do some cycling and beer & wine tasting along the way and will plan to stay with C&H). It was also a great reminder that no matter how far away my family might be and however infrequently we might see each other IRL, they are always there for me, and I for them.
This visit also reminded me that underneath the surface, we (everyone) are all going through the same processes, facing similar challenges in our lives and struggling to overcome them. How do we fully express ourselves and our individual gifts and creativity in the world? How do we define success and happiness, really? What does “balance” mean, and how best do we achieve or strive for it? How do we make a difference and create meaning in our lives and the lives of others? This visit reminded me that the greatest gift we can give to our friends, families and to ourselves is to share authentically about our lives – our challenges, losses, victories, thoughts, and feelings. All of it. The sense of connection and love that is possible through such dialogue is indescribable and is truly the stuff of life.
Thanks Chris, Hilleary & puppy MacKay for a wonderful visit in your beautiful new home – it was just what I needed. I love you guys and can’t wait to see you again soon!!